(08th May, 2017 Email)
No, I am not talking about your physical image today.
Though it will play a part as well. (“Looks don’t matter” – pah, get real. They’re just not the *only* important factor.)
Today, we will discuss how your internal image, your verbal image, and your perceived image must all align for you to consistently pull girls.
You can literally pick any image you want. Nice guy. Rough biker. Christian saint. Boyfriend. Or rogue, mysterious seducer. You can choose to present any of these images of yourself to the girl. You can have her believe that this is exactly the person you are. However, your verbal and non-verbal communication must resonate with and extenuate your chosen image.
While this is theoretically one of the easier points in Daygame to understand, at the same time it is one of the hardest parts to pull off successfully.
It is the sticking point that is hardest to correct in all the guys I coach.
But it makes sense that it is so difficult. In most student’s cases, I am trying to re-wire ingrained behavioral patterns that have shaped their identity throughout their lifetime.
It is not easy for the naturally nice-guy to suddenly start teasing and breaking rapport with a girl.
For the sexually inexperienced students, it is often difficult for them to become comfortable with physical escalation. They see me in my Daygame sets introducing physical touching, ‘kino’, within the first minute (generally first 30 seconds) and they wonder how I perform this “black magic”. Let me tell you though, this comfort with physical escalation didn’t come easily. I worked hard and practiced it approach after approach, for thousands of approaches before I became so comfortable.
I have even seen students who struggle to take a girls number confidently.
If you’re entering the Daygame journey to become a seasoned seducer who is known and loved by many women, you bet your ass that you need to be comfortable in all the little things. Saying hello. Taking her number. Texting her. Escalating. Sexing horizontally (or whatever else, I’m not your boss).
So how does your image affect you and how you act?
If you want to be the casual seducer, you need to focus on acting like the casual seducer throughout your Daygame and seduction process.
Your Daygame approach must be low key, fun, flirty, mysterious and memorable.
You need to set the frames of a casual relationship. Let slip stories about other girls like her you’ve dated, or currently date.
“You’re from L.A.? No kidding. I’m currently seeing a chick from Orange County. I think they’re a little more relaxed than you crazy L.A. girls”.
Set the frame of a future meetup between you two, making sure that it sounds very casual as well.
“Well you seem like a pretty adventurous and interesting chick. Here, I’ll take your number and we’ll get a drink sometime we’re both free”.
On the date itself, you must continue perpetuating the frame of a casual relationship. Don’t give away much of your life details.
Think of what a normal girl’s vision of casual sex looks like:
She goes to a nightclub and gets drunk. Then she’s off to the dance-floor, waiting for the horny chimps to come over and grind up on her. She picks one with a nice smile and attractive body. They go home and get it on. She probably doesn’t even remember his name, so she just screams ‘oh God’, ‘oh God’, instead.
We want to simulate this fleeting, shallow interaction in order to perpetuate quick, casual sex.
Just enough rapport to make the girl comfortable around you.
Importantly, you display no neediness around the sex. The casual seducer doesn’t need to have sex with any one particular girl. For there is an entire city of girls waiting outside his door if this one doesn’t put out.
The casual seducer’s texting is short and to the point. There isn’t 100’s of back-and-forth messages and funny images/gifs exchanged. Leave that for desperate boyfriend-material dudes.
The key is conveying the exact image of what kind of guy you ‘want to be’.
Above is an example of the mindset, tactics and actions, both physical and verbal, of a guy who wants to be a casual-sex Daygame seducer.
Pick what results you want to achieve, and make damn sure that your actions back the chosen image up.
Kinda like the quick-sex, casual Daygame seducer image I displayed in this approach:
See you tomorrow,