(23rd May, 2017 Email)
Of course, this title is for lack of a more appropriate analogy.
Daygame, dating, sex… this shit isn’t a battle nor a war.
It is one of the most fun experiences your life can involve.
So let’s get right into the meat of today’s email.
Contrary to what silly-billy marketers will have you believe, not every girl in the world is waiting to pull her knickers down behind a tree and begging you to bend her over.
Well, not straight away at least.
Yes, sex can happen quickly.
Yes, you can get laid on the same day you meet a girl.
It’s true that you can get laid within 1 hour of meeting a girl. (I know a few that have taken no longer than 5 minutes to go from dry dick to wet dick.)
But it would be a lie for someone to tell you this is a common outcome in the Daygame world.
Correct, every day there are “YES” girls walking around outside that are just *horny* and if you happen to Daygame them and escalate/lead properly, they will fuck you. However, you would need to be approaching 100 girls per day in order to find this special snowflake girl, each and every day. Some days it may be your 3rd approach. Others it may be the 77th.
Great mindset, sure. But a fool’s strategy nonetheless, when you’re trying to optimize your results.
That is the first ‘battle’ you must concede in your mind.
Next is the ‘first date’.
Typically, this has been my *goal* date. By the end of this date, I have raced through deep rapport, comfort, connection. As well as plenty of spiking, sexual teasing, fantasy-creation, and framing the girl exactly how I want her to be.
And it works.
Don’t get me wrong.
Lots of girls will put out on the first date. I’ve scored plenty of girls on the first date.
But here’s the thing, looking back a lot of them were tourist girls. One’s actively searching for their ‘romantic adventure’. The girls who aren’t going to be sticking around, so they figure they may as well get (meat) sticked anyway.
Now we come to the battle that I have LOST all too many times in the past.
Rapid escalation and pushing for sex on the first date with local girls.
By local, I’m talking girls who live/work/study in the city for an extended period of time. Not just the same nationality as myself. (Aussie girls? Ewwwwww)
It may be exchange students, working holiday girls, or those on extended work-visas.
These girls don’t have that same ‘urgency’ in the back of their mind like a tourist girl who is only in town for 4 days will have.
These girls are somewhat established in the city. They’ve met enough loser guys who follow them around. Who stalk every one of their social media posts. Who try and take them for dinners and movies. They’ve even got one or two fuck-buddies from their nights out in the clubs that they can call on for random dick.
All in all, they’re in less need of ‘quick sex’.
Alas, that is where I have struggled in the past.
For I have placed them in the same basket as the “quick-sex, short term tourist” girls.
I’ve lost plenty of hotties from doing this.
NOW I have to clear something up quickly.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be at least trying to pull the trigger on your first date.
You should always make some kind of an offer to take the girl back to your place by the end of the date. At the very worst, it is reminding her EXACTLY what this whole relationship is about. You two aren’t friendly “coffee-buddies”. You’re two sexual human beings and you’re giving her the opportunity to get some on that date.
If she’s down, she’ll go home with you.
All I’m saying is don’t rush it if she isn’t ready.
The mistake I used to make was just assuming every girl was ready. I used to take them home without them knowing.
Instead of offering them ‘a drink back at my place and we can watch/listen to xyz I was telling you about’, I would simply say “Let’s get out of here and go for a walk”, where we would eventually “end up at my place”.
That killed a lot of dates.
It worked for some as well.
But looking back, I lost a LOT more girls that I should have scored with, than what I did score with.
All because I didn’t want to lose that battle.
If it couldn’t be on the same day I met them, it HAD to be the very first time we met up.
Here’s the thing:
If I’d have waited for that second date… Maybe kissed them a little bit at the end of the first date. Not rushed things. Taken it easy. Offered them the opportunity to come home with me, but been entirely unreactive and cool about her saying no… Well, I would have had soooo many more girls basically ready to jump my bones at the start of date number 2.
Sometimes you’ve got to lose a few battles to win the overall war.
While you’ve got to be assertive and make the offer for sex, you also need to be compassionate and understanding if the girl just isn’t ready to do it straight away.
Good things come to those who wait, my friend.
Here, listen to this fantastic approach of an absolute ‘YES’ girl. If she didn’t have to go to work at the time, she was a definite Same Day Lay. But I took it slowly and let the fun times happen later on a date:
See you tomorrow,