(09th May, 2017 Email)
You’ve been there.
I’ve been there.
Most every dude reading this has been there.
Who ever said all Daygame sets were created equal? A mad man who never left his computer and RSD forum, that’s who.
Sometimes in Daygame you get lucky. When you Daygame approach some girls, they will be receptive right off the bat. This isn’t exclusive to *yes* girls. Even *maybe* girls can be energetic within the set and respond quite well.
These are the type of girls who make Daygame easy. A breeze. They almost immediately alleviate any pressure you may have been feeling.
On the other end of this particular spectrum are SHY girls.
They too come in different forms. *Yes* girls. *Maybe* girls. Whatever.
The ‘problem’ with these girls is that they make you work harder. You’ve to to come up with many more assumption stacks before they hook. You’ve got to plow on for minutes before they let slip a possible conversation topic for you to dig deeper into.
Importantly, you must also be VERY GOOD at formulating spontaneous open-ended questions. These are a key ingredient in forcing a girl to talk more in a socially acceptable manner.
(The unacceptable manner being: grabbing them by both arms, shaking them vigorously while screaming “talk God damn it!!!”)
You’d wanna know right?
Well, you’re in luck.
The stealth sniper secret to attracting shy girls is candor.
Now I hear you ask:
“Zac, what the fuck is candor” – as you open a new tab to dictionary.com
Let me give you an infield example of using candor.
A minute or two after I’ve determined that the girl I have Daygame approached is shy, I will say:
“Listen (girl’s name) can I tell you a secret really quickly?”
She’ll let you, “secrets” are a girl’s biggest addiction.
“Well I don’t normally approach girls like this, and I felt a bit nervous. But as I said before, I think you’re very pretty and I just had to. And I’m glad I did, you seem like a really fun person and I feel comfortable talking to you.”
First, I’m calling out the elephant in the room. She’s the one feeling a bit nervous since she’s in an ‘uncommon situation’ – she’s probably never been Daygame approached before. So by stating that this is how I feel, I’m giving her ‘permission’ to feel this way. Now she feels slightly more comfortable.
Next, I remind her exactly why I’ve Daygame approached her, restating that she’s pretty. Now, I frame her exactly how I want her to be: “a really fun person” and “comfortable to talk to”.
Suddenly I’ve taken the pressure off of her.
Shy girls will act that way for many reasons.
By far the main reason is her feeling uncomfortable and scared to say something wrong.
But now, I’ve taken all these doubts away from her.
I’ve given her permission to relax and start acting like herself.
After delivering this line, I continue right back into the next conversation thread. Though I make sure to leave ample room for her to start contributing more and more to the topic.
And you know what?
This super-secret method of candor works a fucking TREAT!
You’re showing social intelligence.
You’re calibrating to the situation at hand. With this sentence (or similar, be your own man, not a parrot) you are giving her permission to feel at ease.
Also, don’t be too surprised at the HUGE GRIN that will appear from ear to ear right after you say this line.
Suddenly, you two can really ‘relate to each other’ in her mind.
At the start of the approach, she thought you were some kind of social animal. Confident enough to go and talk to any girl. Very sociable. Very much UNLIKE her. But now you’ve dispelled these fears. You’ve changed her mind. Now she thinks you’re much more ‘in tune’ with her.
Sadly, I don’t have a recorded infield Daygame approach example of me using this line. But I will purposely go out and get one soon to show you guys exactly how it looks… and the wonderful effect it can have on the set and the girl.
Until then, if you enjoyed that secret tip, here is 7 more like it:
See you tomorrow,