(19th May, 2017 Email)
I want you and I to ponder a seemingly simplistic question very quickly
Some may answer, “Because almost nobody does it.”
That’d be true
Others may say, “Girl’s aren’t expecting it.”
They would also be correct.
Some dudes would argue, “It’s an opportunity to display your true personality with no alcohol involved”.
Once again, you’re not wrong.
They are all good evaluations. However, I think one of the most pertinent reasons for Daygame’s effectiveness is it’s brash and unique way of giving girls an experience that they’ve probably never enjoyed before in their life.
You know that rush that goes through your stomach, into your veins before an approach? That adrenaline of stepping outside of your comfort zone? Well, you are also giving this same excitement to the girl. It may not be her decision to step outside of her comfort zone. But when you put her in this unique position she is getting the same tingle of excitement through her body.
Why do you think most girls are quiet during the start of a Daygame approach?
Because of excitement and being unsure how to act.
You’ve got the advantage. You’ve been in this situation many times before in your past Daygame approaches.
You have become more comfortable with the butterflies. This is why you (usually) have to do most of the work for the first few minutes of a Daygame approach. The girl needs a bit more time than you to become comfortable in this ‘new situation’.
It may NEVER happen to her again. EVER.
Think about that for a second.
Imagine if I told you that you could do only 1 or 2 Daygame approaches in your LIFE.
You’d be excited, confused, timid, slightly pushy, all at the same time.
Girls are all about emotions.
The power of Daygame is that a successful Daygame approach can stir up an entire rainbow of emotions in a VERY SHORT space of time. You’re giving her the neural pleasure of a drug high. Even if it’s only very temporary.
But you have to avoid shooting yourself in the (successful) foot!
With experience, your Daygame is going to become smoother and smoother.
Definitely not a bad thing at all.
A “champagne problem”, I like to call it.
For you see:
While you are putting today’s girl in an amazing bubble of adrenaline pumping emotion, that bubble can pop.
Bubbles are very sensitive.
The slightest miscalibration can pop the bubble.
Does it not send off a red flag to the girl if you’ve just had an energetic, bubbly, sexual conversation for 8.45 minutes only to suddenly go quiet for a minute while you take her number? Then to seemingly lose all interest in her and run away straight after you click the ‘add to contact’ button on your phone?
I say yes.
This is a big bubble-popper.
One self-sabotage method that Daygamer seem to LOVE making.
But fear not, young whippersnapper, for I have a simple solution.
Come up with a story, any story, for you to work into your number close. It can be about anything, as long as you’re actively telling it while you take her number.
Your number close should look something like this:
“Well, [girls name] you seem pretty cool, and like I said earlier, I think you’re very pretty. I’d like to invite you out sometime.”
After she agrees and you’re pulling out your phone, you start moving into your story. Taking a pause at times to ask her ‘how do you spell your name’ and ‘do you remember your number’.
See, now you’re making this whole process of taking her number just a ‘secondary’, ‘normal’ part of the Daygame approach. It is only natural that you take her number. You’ve both just had 8.45 minutes of fun, bubbly, sexual conversation with each other. Of course you both want to see each other again over a coffee or drink. That’s what a guy and a girl that fancy each other do.
You’ve just made it 99.9% impossible for her to go home and backwards rationalize that, “HEY, WAIT – was any of that conversation authentic, or was he just trying to get my number?”
One that moves that 99.9% up to 100%
What I like to do is leave one conversation topic/thread that she mentioned during our conversation untouched.
That way, once I’ve taken the number, I’ve got an easy transition into another 2 or 3 minutes of conversation AFTER taking her number.
Now what have I done?
I’ve removed that last 0.01% possible suspicion she may have had deep in the back of her cute little mind. The lingering feeling that may have backwards rationalized that this whole Daygame approach thing was not indeed an authentic natural interaction, yet merely a ploy to get her number.
And that’s how it should be anyways.
You shouldn’t be stepping up to each girl with the single goal of getting her number.
Don’t sell yourself short. The Daygame conversation should be a screening process to determine whether or not you actually WANT to get her number.
Here, check out my fun little story I used while taking this hot Colombian girl’s number. Smoooooooothe:
See you next week,