(17th May, 2017 Email)
Contrary to a scientist (and you mother’s) belief, you are in fact the center of the universe.
At least, your universe.
It makes sense, you’re living your life. Not for anyone else, but for yourself.
Being selfish is natural. Being greedy is natural. Self-centeredness is natural as well.
I’m not saying that they are particularly endearing qualities. Just that it is understandable when younger people act that way.
I’m guilty of it.
I still catch myself acting these ways at times.
I’m sure you can relate
You’re still in your head a little bit. Everything is still ‘me’ focused. You’re trying to work seamlessly through your Daygame model, attraction, spiking, rapport, comfort, etc. Many a time has a girl offered a nice conversation thread about her own life, only for me to still be caught in my own world. I miss it and move onto another bait about myself, hoping she’ll jump on it.
But, recently I’ve been actively working on a new (well, not really new) frame. Recently I’ve been re-listening to some “Zan Perrion” material. For those unacquainted, he is what the Daygame / seduction community would call a ‘natural’. He acts from a frame of pure love towards women. Each and every girl intrigues him and he wants to make them feel beautiful.
A rewarding frame, I would say.
The beauty of it is that you’re changing your frame from “all about me” to “all about the girl”.
It’s one of the best ways to kill approach anxiety as well. The whole aim of his approach is to bring a smile to the girls face and remind her that she’s a beautiful person.
Coincidentally, this frame has been working wonders during my experimental approaches of late.
I remember around 1.5 years ago when I’d first come across Zan’s material that I’d implemented my Daygame approaches with this frame.
Immediately you are putting the focus on the girl. Sure, the same basic techniques of the classic Daygame model are there, but you go sooooo far from a ‘me’ focus to a ‘her’ focus.
And it’s rewarding.
If I asked you what you thought a girl’s favourite topic of conversation was, what would you answer?
I hope you said “herself”. ‘Cause you’d be correct.
Girls love talking about themselves.
So it makes sense that subtly changing your frame to create an entire focus on the girl would aid your Daygame.
Remember, I’m not recommending you start sucking up to the girl. You’re still teasing and spiking and pushing as much as before. Though, now your goal is to delve as deep as you can into “who this girl is”. You’re moving yourself from ‘perfect stranger’ to ‘longtime lover’ in a matter of minutes. Not physically, but you’re exploring her soul just as deep, or even deeper, than any guy she’s been with has ever done before.
So, let’s take a step back for a second.
Before, I claimed that adopting this new Daygame frame would work wonders in killing your approach anxiety.
First, we are giving immense value to another person.
Imagine if you were having the most stressful day of your life and some random stranger came over to tell you how beautiful you look… It would raise you up, above all your stresses. Even if it’s for no more than a minute, you’ve done such a service in this girl’s life.
I know this because last week it happened to me. I approached a girl with no other intention than making her feel beautiful.
She told me that she’d love to stay and talk, but she’d gotten news from home about a death in her family. (She was from the U.S). However, she took the time to tell me how fantastic I’d just made her feel on one of the worst days of her life.
Finally, I can hear you guys asking me, “How do I know it’s working properly”.
Well, let me tell you from my direct experience.
The last few days I’ve heard the exact same line from many different girls.
This line stands out as memorable because I’ve heard it a few times before… When? About 1.5 years ago. Funnily enough it was the last time I went out with this exact same frame during my Daygame.
You will know it’s working when a girl, out of nowhere, says, “Thank you so much, you have really just made my day.”
If you Daygame approach her as a confident, direct and masculine person who leaves her feeling absolutely beautiful about herself… and she admits that you have made her day… well, that’s a girl who wants to see you again.
I heard this line twice yesterday, one time from a particularly beautiful blonde (though surpisingly short) Swedish girl.
I’ll let you’se know over the next week or two how it plays out.
Until then, consider implementing this idea and frame into your Daygame.
Combine this frame with these 7 tips below and you’re inevitably on your way to greater Daygame heights!
See you tomorrow